If anyone has experienced Walmart customer service recently, rudeness should be a familiar concept. We all know it and we all hate it. The moment where there are thirty checkout stations in the store and only two are open and the cashier acts like it is your own personal fault their life sucks so badly. The traditional trademarks are the eye roll, the ‘finger’, and the ever-present “I’ll be with right with you.”
Even friends can be rude. Today, an acquaintance of mine dropped a forty-pound barricade on my toe. Let me tell you, that bitch hurt. She did not even apologize and did not even seem to notice because she was on her phone. Now, I’m pissed at her and reply with a sarcastic response of “thanks a lot,” and she responds with, “that was kind of rude.”
The F***? I’m rude? Girl, you had better watch out!
Okay, so I am sure that the absolute last thing people want to hear about is my poor, wounded toe, so let me explain. I have come to the conclusion that most of the time ‘rudeness’ may not be rude at all. Think about it. From my perspective, my friend was being rude by completely ignoring me in the first place, causing her to drop the barricade on my toe. On the other hand, she might not have had any idea that she dropped it on me in the first place and my response to her was interpreted as my reaction to her being on her phone, not the aforementioned barricade fiasco. Thus, I was the rude one.
However, that situation was conditional. There are some situations in which I have no idea of why people think they would be right. One time, when my mother was driving me to a class, a BMW driver cut her off and then had the balls to flick her off. Now, in what possible scenario, would this be the correct thing to do? Really? Dude, you’re the one who just cut her off. And based on the fact that you responded by flicking her off proves that you did notice her.
So, I repeat, what would possess him to do this? He was in the wrong, yet he proceeded in being a total jerk. Maybe he had a bad day? I’ll never know.
In the end, what causes rudeness? I believe that some people just view the situation from a different perspective and some people are just assholes (the chances go up if you drive a BMW), and there is nothing that can be done against rudeness. It is a fact of life and the best thing people can do is stop giving a shit what the front desk person in Human Resources says to you.